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Couples compatibility test — you both answer separately, on one phone

A compatibility test about how the two of you actually work — who apologises first, who walks out of the room, who ends up in charge, who carries the noticing. Pick your depth (24 questions in three minutes, or all 70), answer them, then hand the phone over and they answer the same ones without seeing a single one of your answers. You both read one report comparing the two sets side by side. Free to start, no sign-up, nothing saved.

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A compatibility test you take separately

No links to send and no accounts. You answer a run of “who?” questions, the screen goes blank behind a cover, and your partner answers the same ones blind. Because neither of you sees the other’s answers first, the comparison is honest — which is the entire point of the format.

Three depths, one report

Quick is 24 questions in two or three minutes: compatibility score, couple type, green flag score, top strengths and the fun comparisons. Standard is 45 and adds communication, trust, conflict style, love language, emotional support, money, future goals, the roles you each play and personalised advice. Complete is all 70 across ten categories — jealousy and boundaries, emotional maturity, decision making, lifestyle and adventure, the patterns worth watching, and the full category scores. Sections only appear when enough of your answers support them, so nothing is guessed at.

The report puts both of you on one line

Every question becomes a single comparison with both of your answers on it, and the gap between them is the thing we highlight. You get a compatibility score, a couple type, green flags per person, a category-by-category breakdown, playful “who’s more likely to” comparisons, and three things worth actually talking about tonight.

Patterns, not labels

Nobody gets called toxic, and nobody gets named the villain. Every result describes something a person does on a Tuesday — behaviours that can change — drawn from questions built on established couples research: Gottman’s conflict work, attribution research in marriage, and the demand–withdraw pattern. It is a quiz, not a diagnosis.

Then turn it into a date

Finished arguing about who says “always” first? Make it up properly — one tap turns your result into a real date-night invitation with a reveal, mini-games and an RSVP. Free to make, no watermark.

Frequently asked questions

Is this couples compatibility test free?

Yes. The test, the compatibility score, your couple type, the green flag score, your top strengths and the playful comparisons are all free, with no account and no email. There is one optional payment that unlocks the deeper sections of the report — communication, trust, conflict style, money, the roles you each play and the personalised advice — and it covers both of you.

Do we both have to answer separately?

That is the whole format. One of you answers, the screen goes blank behind a cover, and the other answers the same questions blind. Neither of you sees the other’s answers until the report. You can also send a link and answer on your own phones — the report only builds once both halves are in.

How is the compatibility score calculated?

Every question is a “who?” question, so each one becomes a single comparison with both of your answers on it. The score is the share of questions where you both landed the same way, weighted by how much the answers differ when they do differ — two people who say “both of us, evenly” score closer than two people who point at each other.

How long does it take?

Quick is 24 questions and takes two to three minutes each. Standard is 45. Complete is all 70 across ten categories and takes about nine minutes each. You pick the depth before you start, and you can stop and pick a sitting back up on the same phone.

Is a low compatibility score bad?

No. A low score means the two of you see the same moments differently, which is information, not a verdict. Nobody gets called toxic and nobody gets named the villain — every result describes a behaviour, something a person does on a Tuesday, which is the kind of thing that can change. It is a quiz, not a diagnosis.

Is anything saved?

A sitting on one phone leaves nothing behind until you ask for a link. Finishing a report stores it so the link you share keeps working — answer digits plus the two first names you typed, no account, no email, no last names. Anyone who has that link can read the report, which is worth remembering before you post it.